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The Sugar Daddie Phenomenon

You may have heard people say - "He's just a Sugar Daddie" - they may even have been talking about you! What is this thing about Sugar Daddys, what are a Sugar Daddy's characteristics? Is there such a thing as a Sugar Momma? Let's look at it in more detail.

It's true to say that many younger men, on reaching the age in their lives when pubescence has taken control of their lateral thinking, find themselves fantasizing about older females, often twice their own age and upwards. For example, it's quite common for a young man, still at school age, testosterone flying everywhere, to have the 'hots' for one or more of his female teachers, a neighbor's wife or even a pal's mother.

The consensus of opinion reached by many, is that the attraction by a young male to a more mature woman is based on the fact that, not only does she have experience.. but a working knowledge of the male anatomy, and a sexual prowess not to be discovered so easily in a younger woman his own age.

Although there are exceptions to the rule, in the majority of cases, his secret lusting remains just that, and goes unnoticed by the older female who still regards him as a young student, or friend of her son.

Howerever, as the young male grows older, and gains his own level of experience, so his desire for the maturer female wanes, and on reaching middle age, he will frequently have his head 'turned' by a much younger woman.

All this is in stark contrast to the attraction patterns noted in the life of the female of the species. Whereas the young girl, on first becoming sexually aware, will hone her intimacy skills on the younger male, yet she will often be less interested in him as she gets older, turning her attention to the more mature men that cross her path. But why is this the case?

The Sugar Daddie Phenomenon, whilst oftentimes the source of amusement for some, can in fact develop into quite a powerful relationship, with loyalty, romance and chivalry being key factors in the union. Many women note that a male around her own age, or younger, will not show her the same level of respect, or pay as much attention to detail, that his older counterpart will be inclined to display.

It's a valid point that most women are more mature than men at any given age, and it's not surprising that by the time she reaches her mid-thirties, she already feels more compatible with a male ten or twenty years her senior, and has left the guys her own age, far behind both mentally and emotionally. Her more mature partner is more equipped to seduce her mind as well as her body. He will be less afraid of displaying public affection, holding her hand, or opening doors for her. He will be happy to allow the whole world see how proud he is, to be by her side.

Sexually too, although he may not be an athlete between the sheets, he will feel the need to ensure his girl is pleasured well, as a priority over seeking to satisfy his own desires. Her younger lover will no doubt give her "the best seventeen seconds she's ever had", before raiding her fridge in search of a beer. Whereas in the case of her older lover, the foreplay will begin in the restaurant with witty flirting, eye contact and laughter. Later they will enjoy the afterglow together, the passion may have subsided, but the emotion still very much alive.

The term 'Sugar Dady' was first used in the early 1920's and is described in the WordWeb Dictionary as "A wealthy older male who offers a young person expensive gifts in return for friendship or intimacy". The 'sugar' in this early term alluded to the sweetening role of the gifts, and 'daddy' to the age difference between the pair. There is no mention however, of love, romance or indeed a relationship in the dictionary description of the term, yet it is a fact that women are often attracted, even turned on by men of substance or power. Is it so inconceivable then, that a younger woman could find happiness in a relationship with a guy old enough to be her father, who has so much more to offer her than money and gifts?

A growing percentage of females openly admit to prefering the company of an older guy on a date, rather than same age or younger. The present day Sugar Daddie is a far cry from his 20th Century counterpart, who would be more inclined to keep such a relationship totally private, enjoying clandestine meetings at secretive venues. Today, an older guy will display his younger partner openly, publicly and with pride.

Here are ten good reasons why sugar daddy dating is becoming more and more popular within the online dating arena. The comparisons are based on age difference relationships with long term in mind.

1./ Generally speaking, a female will feel safer in the company of more mature sugar daddys, especially on first meeting. He is more inclined to suggest coffee or dinner in a crowded venue as a first meeting place, or be quite happy for her to suggest a locale where she would feel comfortable. Her ease-of-mind, during that first date in particular, will be high on his agenda.

2./ Although there are exceptions to every rule, women dating the older sugar daddy's type notice the higher level of respect shown to them during such relationships. The emphasis on romance overshadowing his desire to get her into bed is often more apparent. He is less likely to be interested in a superficial encounter.

3./ The prospects of a long term relationship are usually very real, his playing around days are obliterated in the past. His mature mindset now focused on the many other aspects and indeed the benefits of being in an adoring long term union.

4./ The 'sugar daddie meets sugar baby' relationship is often centered around the male's need to protect and show support towards his younger partner. Many miscontrue this notion as a 'sex for favors' arrangement. Yet in his mind, sex is far from being a pre-requisite. His pride would be severely dented if he thought for a moment that the sexual encounters were brought about as a direct result of his demonstrations of kindness.

5./ Loyalty too will be of great importance. His desire to protect and support will be extremely focused, and once he discovers his belle, his eye is less likely to be turned in other directions. The strength of the relationship is an important issue and he will defend that vigorously.

6./ Baggage can often be a problem in any new relationship. Whether it be family resposibilities, ex partners or even financial issues, baggage from the past can often deflower an otherwise perfect opportunity. The older, more mature male is less likely to allow external issues to spoil the possibilities and will often take his partner's external resposibilities on board with grace, understanding and a positive attitude.

7./ Sexually, although not quite the opportunist he used to be, his need to delight and satisfy will oftentimes be stronger than seeking his own satisfaction. He will take time to seduce her mind, his idea of foreplay has evolved way beyond 'fumble on the couch' status. The aftermath of those intimate encounters too will be loving and warm, with pillow talk becoming a tender part of the process.

8./ Romance is an important aspect of any dating relationship, but sugar daddys will pay much more attention to the romantic suggestion. This is not simply manifested with flowers, gifts and material things, but the hand holding, public shows of affection or little notes left discreetly for her to find.

9./ On the maturity front, it is accepted that a female is far more mature the a male at any given age. Therefore it makes sense that she would have more in common with an older guy than one her own age. They will hold each others attention for longer periods, they will have more interests to share and they will be much closer as friends within the overall plan.

10./ The genuine sugar daddy will enjoy spoiling and pampering his young lover and take every opportunity available to make her feel like a princess. Not necessarily by way of showering her with material things, but generally taking care of her needs. Making her feel that she is important to him, loved.. cherished.. protected.

The 1920's version of the sugar daddy would typically shower his young lover with gifts and often cash, as a 'reward' for her company or sexual favors. These days the arrangement is centered around a relationship, a solid bond between two willing partners. The spoiling, pampering and protection satisfying both his need to give, and her need to receive. This twenty-first century sugar daddie sugar baby arrangement can often develop into a powerful union of mind body and soul, leaving the conventional relationship in the dust.